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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just learned about this term a few days ago. It perfectly describes my mother. She keeps begging me for "help", but it's never clear what that "help" is. Whenever I suggest a first step towards solving one of the problems, she rejects my suggestion immediately. I just gave up making suggestions, and I just listen. I think she's OK with that. When she recites her talking points, it's like she goes into a trance. It's a one-way conversation. (Like the poster above, I can set down my phone for half an hour to complete a chore, and when I pick it up, she's still talking and doesn't know I've been away.) I don't think this behavior can be fixed. She has intense anxiety issues, and she thinks about her problems obsessively. She has an intense need to share her pain. In every other aspect of her life, she is very thoughtful and makes a big deal out of being careful not to inconvenience other people, but she doesn't seem to realize that dumping her misery and pain on family and close friends is unfair to them. [/quote] I have an emotional vampire for a mother too. I solved it by cutting contact with her 10 years ago. When you give attention to these people, it's "supply" to them. [/quote]
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