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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't move in. Tell him you've thought about it. Moving in with him and his roommates is a NO GO! You'll be the unofficial cook, toilet cleaner, cook and more. Wait another year for a ring then if he's still not sure, move on. [/quote]

Haha, no they wouldn't make me their servant! They have a rotating wheel of chores like roommates of my past had done. They cook together and share all their food, which is also something I am not willing to do.

Also edited to clarify that he "rents a room" meaning a third room in the house is rented out to a fourth housemate. So are three bedrooms - his, the other bedroom shared by the husband and wife, and a third bedroom rented out to a fourth roommate.

Ive brought this up to some other married or partnered friends and they seem to describe communal living like it's a normal part of young urban adulthood and shouldn't be a big deal, and that if I'm truly ready to  to commit in a partnership, I should be ready to share my space. But I don't want to. I'm extroverted during the day and I love being out and about and meeting people, but I am a total introvert at night/in the early morning and really don't want to share everything with other people.[/quote]

I’m not  as pessimistic about this as most people. It’s unconventional, but I’ve seen wonderful living situations like this. However, I would only do this when the third room is empty and could become yours. You would rent from him, you can put some of your furniture in there although you may need to store the rest, and you would have a space to retreat.

You wouldn’t have any stake in the house since you would still be renting. After a year or two you would probably grow to either love or hate the situation, and then it would be clear what your next move is.

Good luck!![/quote]

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