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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]On this board since it’s the wife, everyone will say no big deal. Reverse the genders, and it’s a huge deal, he’s an ass, etc. [/quote]

I disagree. It’s more dangerous for kids to be around a man than a woman from a sexual molestation  threat perspective.[/quote]

So you have evidence to corroborate that, right?

OP, I don’t think it’s a good idea for her to be taking the kids. Does she have low self esteem?  I would try to reason with her again and offer to keep the kids. But it sounds like this man is already around your children, unfortunately.[/quote]

Yes, she could have a low self esteem. She’s been like this in all of her relationships that I know of. One of her biggest insecurities is not finding a man and being alone. She has also mentioned to my 8 yo daughter that “no one wants to be alone”. I don’t think kids should be told such a thing that being a relationship is a must needed regardless of how it is.

He has been around a couple of times before for small amount of time such as dinners or parties but straight being with kids for 5-6 days is an overload for a person that they don’t know very well. [/quote]

I hope she listens to you and understands that it's better to leave the kids with you if she goes on this trip.  I understand wanting to have someone in your life, but I agree that it's too soon to subject the kids to this.

My mom used to do this to me and my sister when we were young.  She dated a guy for years (he actually lived with us) who didn't like us at all.  We just tagged along whereever they went.  I really liked when she would leave us with our grandmother. [/quote]

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