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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ll bite.

Spouse had an affair.  Spouse remorseful begging not to divorce, in therapy.

In order to even think about reconciliation, I required a post-nup, std tests, AP’s name and vasectomy. He is already in intensive individual and group  therapy on his own initiative and the affair was already over.  He ended it.  That was confirmed.  She wanted to leave her husband for him and have him support her non-working @ss.  Lol

We have 2 homes.

I’m writing in that I get the million one in the city and 1/2 of the $1.6 million one we live in.

I am also asking for part of his retirement.

I make decent $ ($185k/great health benefits) and he makes between $300k-500k/yr depending on project.  We will go over spousal support/child support.

I look at is as protection and first sign he’s up to no good makes divorce much easier with most of the terms already negotiated.

Post nups are VERY common now and completely enforceable- each person is required to have their own attorney.  Look at track record.[/quote]

Wow...with those kinds of requirements, I would just get a divorce.[/quote]

He does not want to lose me.  He is also cooking, shopping, cleaning, doing on child-related issues.  He is very committed to the marriage and willing to sign off on anything so I won’t leave him. He is in therapy 4 days per week.  I did not ask him to do that.  He found the therapists and group sessions himself. I have done nothing in 2 months- minus my day job.  His therapist told me he is the most motivated to change and remorseful man he’s ever worked with. His Therapist asked me to meet with him today.  He wanted me to know it was not love between the AP and my husband.  His prior therapist (the one he got to help end the affair) told me the same thing.  He’s F@cked up from a really traumatic childhood and does not want to live life this way.  He had the vasectomy within a week after discovery.

I don’t know whether to thank the married whore AP or not :lol: . I’m starting to think it was a good thing to impact drastic change.  Rock bottom.  At least I will come out of it financially set if it doesn’t work out.  He swears the rest of his life is only for me and the kids no matter what happens.  [/quote]

Sounds like your DH thought he would get away with his affair with the  “classic”  married person.  Lots of people think having affairs with other married people will be much safer and covert lessening the chances of a ‘Fatal Attraction’ situation and  getting caught.  Btw calling his mistress a whore is passing the blame. Your DH is the only person to blame here sister.  He sounds so much like my ex husband and a few of my ex bfs who would say and do anything after an affair to keep me! Of course till the next Affair.. :twisted: [/quote]

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