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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I also think you imagine you will bear your pain together if you tell him, so that you don’t feel so alone with your grief. And that maybe you will re-forge a bond with him all these years later, a bond you *fantasize* you would still have if you hadn’t had the abortion (which is hogwash, to be blunt). It’s unhealthy, self-absorbed in a way that is detrimental to your mental health and would very possibly be unwelcome contact. Let.it.go.[/quote]

I agree with this.  You already know that telling him this will only hurt him.  There is no positive outcome that could come out from him finding out this information.  You are looking for him to alleviate your guilt and pain.  It's just not going to happen.  No human being can do that for you.  You have to forgive yourself and move on.  Without him!

I am certain that it was just this abortion that sent you into a tailspin that is still going on 20 years later.  I'm sure there were many events in your life that contributed to how you are feeling today. [/quote]

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