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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you mean when they are older?

I can't imagine that I'd chose to do IVF, and discard embryos if DH and I weren't both 100% prochoice, in which we'd be passing those values on to our child, and I'd hope he or she would be OK with that choice.

Beyond that, I can't imagine what else to say.  Are you considering lying?  So, your child grows up enough to be curious and asks and you lie?  Tell them you tried them all?  Or that only one embryo was made?  [/quote]

So then what would you do with the embryos if you’re done having children? Pay storage fees forever??[/quote]

[b]I'm the PP you're responding to.  I'm prochoice.  I would have no problem discarding embryos. [/b] I mean, maybe some problem just in that I had gone to a huge amount of work to create them, and it would be like discarding anything else that represented blood, sweat and tears. My writing above wasn't in the hypothetical because I wouldn't do it, it's just that I don't have any IVF kids to talk to about it.

But if I didn't feel that way, and I thought of embryos as babies, then I imagine that I wouldn't do IVF, or wouldn't do IVF in a way that carried a risk of creating embryos that I didn't use.  I'd adopt someone else's embryos, or create one at a time (is that I thing, I've never looked into it), or I'd adopt a child (which I did, actually, but not because of my beliefs around abortion).  [/quote]

I thought pro choice simply meant that one was in favor of allowing others to make the choice, not necessarily that one would make that choice themselves. [/quote]

Well yes, but I am both prochoice for other people, and comfortable with the idea of discarding my own. [/quote]

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