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[quote=Anonymous]I only read a few responses, so this likely was hit upon, but he is only 4....my daughter is 4.5 and she has moments that are completely void of adult reason or compassion, and def more aggressive than I like. I try to remember she is young, and not only is her brain developing immensely but she also simply has not had the decades of experiences, learning, modelling and guidance that we have.

It is hard, especially when it seems so out of character and just downright crazy, but as a parent and adult, my view is that the most important thing for us to do is model patience, kindness and understanding - so that over time, he this modelling will be instilled in his being. Don't get me wrong, there are certainly situations where I put my foot down and am firm in how I respond to an action or "misbehavior". But, it is really important to think about why they may be acting in way we do not like; are they truly trying to be malicious and mean or is it that they themselves are struggling.

Your son was frustrated I am guessing, and compound that with his age, and the current Covid home stay situation, emotions are heightened. We do not do time outs, as I have read they are not a logical consequence.

I think someone else mentioned that the best consequence is one that makes sense to the sense and is "natural".   You do a lot of hitting and yelling at a person, likely they won't continue wanting to play, so that is what happens. But before it gets to that point, for a child so a young a warning is usually warranted and if it continues instead of becoming enraged or "yelly" yourself, it may pay to be sympathatic and speak to your child or maybe he just wants to release pent up emotion and needs a good cry, or hug or moment....[/quote]

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