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[quote=Anonymous]My first question to you is “what is your goal?” For many parents it is to raise a resilient child who can be self sustaining. But you and your husband must find your own goal for raising your children based on your values and life choices. Right now it appears the most important thing is to stabilize this child so that she is teachable and able to settle down. The tantrums and behavior are an attempt to control her environment.

123 Magic helps some children to stop, be able to think and decide how to proceed. This may stabilize a child so that they can learn the valuable skill of self-control. For other children it makes the parent responsible for their behavior and gives the child the impression that they don’t have to obey immediately but encourages the wrong thinking that they can delay right behavior. You must decide how this affects your child and use it accordingly.

Once a child is able to successfully complete the process of regulating and controlling their behavior, the book Dare to Discipline is a good choice for most parents and children. You and your husband need to be in agreement on how to proceed with this child. This will give her security. She needs this and unconditional love to be successful.

Screen time can be very difficult for children when the screen is HD. This means that the visual presentation is affecting the mind in real time i.e. as if it were a real experience. These experiences can quickly overwhelm the young immature mind. I suggest that you limit screen time and reintroduce it in small doses. You might also sit with her and help her to handle the information and experiences by modeling your own reactions and behavioral response to what is presented on the screen.

This is a child who needs to slow down, and progress at a pace that she can handle. I am praying for you and your husband. Just an aside, this often happens with children who are extremely smart and sensitive and once they learn to self-pace and control their behavior they excel. God bless you and your family. I am praying for you.[/quote]

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