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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't get what you're struggling with here, OP.  You literally hold all the cards.  It's your house.  Don't let people come over if you don't want to.  If they pitch a hissy, that's on them.  It's not your job to make sure they never react inappropriately to things, and their feelings aren't yours to manage.

They're trying to hand you a bag of poop.  Don't take it.[/quote]

This. Say it's not safe for them and you don't want to be responsible for them potentially catching COVID from you all. And that you will miss them so much this year.[/quote]

Op's husband has a say in this.  If he wants to visit with his parents OUTSIDE in his own yard he can do it.  If the kids want to play outside and visit with their grandparents they should do so.

The only one who sounds terrified is Op.  She can stay inside.[/quote]

Again, I think everyone is entitled to his/her own level of comfort and what's safest for themselves and their families right now. My point of view, is that we are one unit as a family. if one of us gets COVID-19, we can all get it very easily. Thankfully, my husband agrees on this and also doesn't want them visiting right now. Problem is they don't stop pushing until they get their way. [/quote]

Then they don’t visit. Wave at them through the window or be gone on a hike that day. They won’t break into your house. It’s a nuclear option but they have left you little choice. [/quote]

Agree with the above.

As an aside, I am seriously thinking about having a very minimal powder room accessible to an outside porch, if I ever get a house built (or if I live in one easily modified). There could be access from inside the house, but I'd want to be able to lock from inside the house, if so.

I come from a culture of place and time where it ends up being common to insist you need to use the bathroom, even if people don't seem to want to invite you in. I would dearly love to have a discreet cooler and outside-accessible toilet on the porch for exactly times like this. If I wanted to socially distance or keep the house private, there would be no reason someone could insist to come inside.

I might never use it, but it would amuse me to have it. [/quote]

There was a whole book written on this about a decade ago.   It was called "The Help."

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