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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your mother can not watch your THREE YEAR OLD without disciplining her.  Keep in mind that to discipline means to teach.  It doesn't mean to punish.

It might be more effective if instead of you telling your mom "don't give her the silent treatment" to say "Can we please agree that when DD cries, you address the issue she's crying about but not the fact that she's crying?"

So that would look like "You were scared when you woke up because you forgot Mommy would be at work and I'd be here?  That would scare me too if I were three."  [/quote]

+1 Pick your battles. The one PP highlights seems like a good one to focus on. 
Keep in mind that your mom’s discipline methods (especially certain tones of voice and facial expressions)  probably seem extra grating to you because you remember them from when you were a kid being disciplined. I know there are things my mom does with my kids that are maybe not quite the most modern methods but aren’t egregiously bad either but just watching them makes me feel like I’m a five year old getting in trouble again, so they get my hackles up.

If your mom’s methods are something you think is abusive, then you should not have her babysit (and also you should never let her see your child again). If they are not your preference but not abusive, then work on a few key areas and let the rest go (since it sounds like the alternative is losing your job).
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Completely agree.
Now is not the time to nit-pick someone who is doing you a favor.[/quote]

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