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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I never ask my kids to do something. I tell them.  Because it's not a choice.

Here's what would happen:

Me: It's time to put all your blocks in the basket and then wash hands for dinner.
DS4: No.
Me: That wasn't a request.  You have until the count of 3 and then you get punished. 1, 2, 3.
DS4: NO
Me: Okay. Go to your room. Don't come out until you're ready to apologize and do what you were told. Are you going to walk on your own or am I carrying you?
DS4: No. I'm still playing.
Me: No you're not. You lost that privilege by refusing to do what you were told. You have until the count of 3 to go to your room or I will MAKE you go. 1, 2, 3.
DS4: Taking a strong stance for political preschoolers everywhere, stays still.
Me: Okay.

And then I scoop him up and deposit him in his room. "You can come out when you're ready to put your blocks away and wash hands for dinner. We'll be eating dinner without you."

And then I close the door and walk away. And if he screams through dinner, so be it. If he trashes his room, he will clean it up.

(My personal rule on kids cleaning up is that as long as they start doing it, I will help them. Big messes can feel overwhelming, even for adults. So I'm fine with helping a kid clean up their toys as long as they begin first. If they stop because they see I'm doing it, I stop and encourage them to keep going.)[/quote]

Or you could just drop the rope.

At my house it’s more like:

Me: “Wash your hands and come to dinner.”
DS: “No! I’m busy.”
Me: “Please join us when you’re done.”

Proceed to eat.

DS, 5 minutes later: washes hands, comes to the table & eats. [/quote]

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