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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can’t make parents do things. They don’t lose their rights to autonomy just because we don’t like their decisions.  Uncomfortable, but true.[/quote]

OP here and yes, I completely agree.  My parents are the same age as ILs and very concerned about their risky behavior, but they told me that it's up to ILs to decide to stop working on their own and that it's not my and DH's place to try to control their behavior.  I was surprised by their position, at first, but now I see that autonomy is something that all older people are sensitive to.   [/quote]

OP, where do your parents live?

Would you be able to go stay with them if your husband brings your ILs to your apartment?

Your marriage is already on the rocks. Your husband is literally telling you he doesn’t care about his newborn baby’s life very much. There is no way around this. He will put on blinders to your family’s needs and pick his parents’ comfort  every time. Your husband is picking his parents’ convenience over your baby’s health.

Are you okay with those trade offs?

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