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[quote=Anonymous]How old are your kids, OP? My guess is that even if he really likes your kids, he does not want to live full-time with them. That might hurt but it's fair. He may not want to say this explicitly because it is very hurtful, but consider the possibility that this is the reason. Does that change anything for you?

Rather than blame him for not wanting what you want, I think you just have to be really honest with yourself first and foremost about what you really want and need. If it's to live under the same roof with someone, then this person is not a good fit and he's made his intentions clear at this point. He's no more to blame than you for wanting what he wants. This works for him. If it doesn't work for you, that's not his fault, that means you end this amicably and move on to find someone whose ideal matches yours.

Some people could never live apart together, others would find it ideal.

Is he attentive to your needs otherwise? Do you feel you have enough sex, enough talking? If not, could you be specific and ask, can we do x, y, and z? Without blaming him or saying he's wrong, just ask for what you want? In other words, is there any way besides living together that you can feel connected enough, loved enough? If the answer is no, you two are not suited. Honestly, it is strange that you'd be in it this long and somehow expected him to read your mind and want what you want. [/quote]

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