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New marrriages might help, or they might make the situation worse.  It's hard to predict.  But it's important to be realistic. [b] Your choice of partner has consequenses for your whole family. [/b] Choose well.

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This is so true. My MIL is living with us because she is divorcing her second husband. They are financially stable together, but not separately. So we are looking down a long barrel of 15-20 years ahead of her needing somewhere to live, eventual care, etc., and not really having the resources or planning wherewithal to deal with it. We can't afford to be the perpetual Plan B for her, but have to be for now. We hated that they got married in the first place and it hasn't been great for a long time, so overall, we think it's a net positive that he will no longer be in the picture for lots of reasons, but his own family is going to have to step up massively to help him, and we are in over our heads trying to help her. It's not a pretty picture.[/quote]

This.  Even if everyone is reasonable and competent and has some money, more people just makes everything complicated and stressful.  Schedules and decisions have to take account of lots more people.  We are trying to move my mom and her partner to assisted living in the next few years, and choosing a place suitable for them in consensus with my siblings as well as his adult children has proven complicated.  Even though everyone is trying to be nice.  It is just sooo much harder dealing with these people I barely know.  [/quote]

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