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[quote=Anonymous]Let's say you have a boy of about 10.  That  boy loves to wear pink and jewelry and stereotypically girl clothes.  He acts effeminate, thus he seems different than most other boys.  He may or not be gay - and there is no shame in being gay.  Let's say he is gay - he recognized it, as have his parents.  They embrace it within their family!  They have discussed it many times.   However, he also is a talented artist and athlete, a fabulous big brother, got all A's in a few subjects, is polite and has a very nice sense of humor, etc.  Do you think an adult would ask if he is gay?  If so, do his parents need to answer the question if he is standing there (or even if he is not there)?  Does he need to answer the question when a new acquaintance (adult or child) asks him if he is gay? If so, how would they answer?

There is nothing wrong with being gay - but it is different from the norm - a curiousity, if you will.  How do you think the boy feels that when acquaintences come up to you, the first thing they want to know is if he is gay?  Do we have to answer to quell someone's curiosity?

If you think the analogy is not correct, please let me know why.  There may be more stigma associated with being gay than with being adopted, but I think the same principles apply.

As for ambassadors, I think being a family and acting like all other families is appropriate.  People can get a lot of great information just by observation.  [/quote]

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