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[quote=Anonymous]I agree with OP there is no need to explain your child's circumstances to every Tom, Dick or Harry who happens to pass by.

More importantly curtailing and or selectively answering these questions in front of your child reinforces a child's resolve that he/she does not have to explain themselves to strangers. Believe me, adults have had no problems questioning my three year old DC when my back is turned. I want to make it clear as possible that neither DC nor I are under any obligation to answer questions about our family.

So far the politest way has been to ask "Why do you ask?"  that usually stops people dead in their tracks and they start backing off and babbling. I don't think they mean any harm but once a mirror is put up to their question they immediately see that is intrusive and a bit rude.

Getting questions from young children is a different story. Clear answers are a must: ie Where is DC father? Answer: We are a small family just the two of us. Look around all families are different some have three girls, others have one boy ect ... this is our family. They get it and go on playing, no need to go into long drawn out explanations... just keep it positive.

It would be wise to brief family and close friends on your talking points because I was shocked how some of them described my family to their kids. [/quote]

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