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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to change your approach since what you are doing is sending out an unintended message to him.  If you are just trying to inform him of what you are doing to see if he is interested, then you approach and ask him if he has to work tonight.  If he says yes, then you say, okay and go back to the kids.  If he says no, [b]you can tell him that you and the kids are watching such and such if he is interested in joining you.  This way you don't imply that he should be spending more time with the kids and you don't put on the guilt factor if he says he is working.  [/b]

Sometimes just changing the way you convey information can solve a problem.[/quote]

+100

FWIW, my DH has shows he likes to watch with the kids and I have mine.  That makes sense for us because as a couple there are only a few movies and tv shows that we both are interested in watching and for those we want to watch them together as a couple.  Depending on the movie or show we will ask the kids if they want to watch with us!  If it’s something neither of us wants to watch and our kids do, our attitude is only one of us needs to make the sacrifice if it needs parental guidance and we try to be fair that it’s not always the same person.

So, I’m team DH on this one because the way you are approaching it comes off as trying to dictate how he spends time with the kids for something only you are interested in doing, posed at times that are inconvenient to him, in a way that makes him seem like the bad guy in front of the kids because the expectation is it isn’t a family movie night unless everyone in the family participates. [/quote]

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