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[quote=Anonymous]If he truly has Asperger's then he neither seek or need the outside relationship and he is completely happy that way so what you would do is actually to go against the grain. You need to learn more how the Asperger's fare. Also,  he it is very hard to find a partner for Asperger's people and keep the relationship is even harder. Check the statistics, and do not ruin it for him if you love him. Asperger's are very difficult to live with because they have a lot of quirks, lots of high functioning issues and 
that makes them very difficult partners and hard to co-parent with. If you ever follow the many posts here you would know.
Having a wife who runs the household and him just doing what is needed and as needed is a god sent gift. I am pretty sure the reason she is not the best terms with you is because you want to help him like he is non Aspie using Neurotypical people's standards. You simply seem not to understand him, his relationship and what he needs.

I would suggest you first truly and deeply educate yourself on Asperger Marriage, and Asperger Husbands and only then
you will have some understanding what is possibly his wife dealing with. She is most likely Neurotypical and to make it work is gigantic task between the two. If you don't want him to live alone then do not interfere, what you are trying to do is fixing what does not seem to be broken just because you feel like it is.

I am pretty sure that when you will listen more to his wife, just listen, and hear and use the knowledge from the books and possibly therapy to learn about your brother, then you might get a new friend. She might like you if she senses that you know what she is dealing with because at this point you seem like  you only care about our brother and not his family and also what you are trying to do is most likely leading to some conflict between them and I am pretty sure this is the last thing they need.

Aspies are not Neurotypical, they do not share the same needs or wants so you trying to want what you want is like
him trying to make you want what he does. He is not forcing you to drop your friends, so why are you forcing him to make some? It is like this.. a duck is a duck and a cat is a cat, duck loves to swim, cat does not, so if you are forcing a cat to swim, you will end up scratched, cat will end up wet or dead. Let him be. Show support and that is all they need.

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