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[b]My mother's family has a title and estate.[/b] Our ancestor was ennobled more than a thousand years ago.

They are practical, down to earth people, despite having had childhoods with nursemaids and governesses or tutors, and being taught all about etiquette and the finer distinctions of rank.

I mean, my uncle rakes out his horses' manure himself. :-)
My mother does her own tidying up and ironing. 
They will talk to you like nice, normal people and you'd never guess their family background.
And they have totally embraced my child with ADHD and learning disabilities.

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This is true for my Mum's side as well. She married into my Da's family which was catholic and not wealthy and the irony is that they treated her as if they looked down on her (cognitive dissonance). My Mum's side is down to earth and exactly what you picture for 'working royalty'. My mother had great disdain for pretenders but never felt a need to publicly correct them unless they were treating others badly. She would come home and cringe and laugh about it, though. I think I got my patience and awareness of people from her.

My father's sisters would all run around doing a whole queue involving a hierarchy of communication when they felt they needed to pass along information (ie insult/question/correct her). It was this whole elaborate thing and I can just see her setting her teacup down, folding her hands pleasantly in her lap, with her face calmly relaxing as her eyebrows politely rose up and she inclined her head to act interested and accommodating to whatever fresh hell they were bestowing upon her. (I make this same face, I now know). As an example, she became aware that my dad's sisters were taking ownership/referencing her family title (as if they inherited it when my father married her) while also disparaging it and she shut that down in an amazing way. I remember not making eye contact, continuing to move unobtrusively so no one would remove me from the room and pretending to still be playing but my ears were HOT and I ENJOYED it because she put up with so much and was finally politely objecting/reorienting them to reality. But I knew if you could see my pride that she would take me to task. Later we were leaving and I remember it being one of the first times I was allowed to ride in the front of the car and I think I was flushed and humming away and she wasn't quite starting the car. I turned and looked up at her and she just gazed at me with that beautiful face and said "Liked that, did you?" and I said "I DID!" and we hugged and laughed. [/quote]

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