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[quote=Anonymous]Anyone who tells you "all kids do X" or that they have a magic solution that will work with all kids just does not know enough kids.  It's worth knowing what works with most kids, but also acknowledging that your kid may be different.

School years are about taking kids who are all very different persons, making them all do the same stuff at the same time in the same way for 13 years,  even though at the end of the educational process, they will all lead very different lives and do a great variety of different things, at different times, in different ways.

Agree with everything about teaching independence.

Kindness and patience matter more than just about anything, and I wish I could be a better model in that regard.

Be flexible and roll with the punches.  As PP noted (Starbucks story), it's often better to let go of your "rules" or how you thought you would raise the kids, and raise the kids you have in a way that meets them where they are.  To use an analogy, if you thought you were growing roses, and it turns out you are growing a maple tree, you will not do well by that tree if you treat it as a rosebush and nothing you do will turn it into a rose bush.  Once you see what you've got, you've got to adjust your expectation and approach, so that you can help that maple tree become a great and healthy maple tree.  And the reality is, you probably won't really know what you're growing, until you're done.  [/quote]

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