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[quote=Anonymous]OP, consider that she's pushing boundaries at school (started with "butt", got away with it, so pushed it a little further with "vagina") because she isn't clear about what is truly inappropriate and why - because you are SO strict with these things (which is your prerogative), that she knows she can't get clarification from you, so she's doing it in school. You say that you are strict with anatomically correct words, but that toilet humor isn't tolerated. To me, she sounds confused about when she can use the terms you insist on (rightly I might add, correct terms for body parts are important). Think about it from her perspective - it's okay to say, "my butt hurts", "touch your butt", "my vagina hurts", but not "touch your vagina."

Instead of being "mortified, concerned, enraged, disappointed", use this as an opportunity to truly think through WHY you find potty humor so offensive that you would punish so severely for it. Then if you can coherently articulate that, then figure out how to explain it in a way a kindergartener will understand. If you can't, then you can certainly continue to calmly correct/educate her "that is potty humor and potty humor is not allowed in our house", but it truly doesn't seem fair to punish her for not meeting a standard she can't understand well enough to apply correctly going forward.[/quote]

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