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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP here, if it's not clear from my post:  every needle, every $$, every appointment, every scan, every bruise in my tush, every early morning ultrasound etc. is worth it.  in hindsight it seems like nothing and I have a third child, who I cannot remotely imagine life without.  [/quote]

But IVF isn't a sure thing. I was 33 when I started IVF for my second child, and two years and 5 rounds later, we've thrown in the towel and have nothing to show for it. Meanwhile, we put our finances, my body, our marriage, and our family through stress and hardship. And yet I still want that child as much as I did when we started, but hard work and really wanting something just aren't enough. If Shady Grove's fancy computer program gives her a 30% chance at live birth, she seriously needs to consider whether it's worth that heartache and sacrifice to most likely not succeed. She's done IVF before, so she knows the ropes, but it's disingenuous to say "you have to try! It will be worth it!" without considering it NOT working.[/quote]

Yes, I agree (I wrote the post you quote).  I do agree you need to know it may not work, but what I am saying is it's not as simple as "you have 2, you should be grateful for what you have and not do IVF." I am saying if you want another child, and are willing to go through all the financial, physical etc. struggle to get there, it's worth a SHOT.  obviously you never know if it will ultimately work.  i wasn't prepared to quit yet, and I had success before I had to, I cant say how much more I would have gone (I got 2 PGS normal embryos from the last fresh transfer, so I could have tried once more I guess).[/quote]

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