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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" and it changed how I interact with my DH.

Some of his actions would hurt me so I became a confrontational, verbally abusive shrew to him. As a result my mild mannered, laid back DH become uncaring and equally abrasive  towards me. I read the book, decided that I had made my own horrible bed but I did not have to lie in it. I told my DH that I will change and that prove to him that I have seen the errors of my ways. Of course, he did not believe me. The next time he said or did something that hurt me, I would tell him that what he did hurt me but instead of yelling at him I will leave the room because I am going to do the right thing and not escalate this.  He liked it a lot and started listening to my point of view and acknowledging my feelings.  I felt also more empowered and less hurt because I had a clear course of action. We have been married 25+ years. He is my best friend and we have gone through many ups and downs together. We take good care of each other.  [/quote]

I did not read this book, but this is basically what I did. It worked. Happily married several years later (after being soooo close to pulling the trigger on divorce). [/quote]

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