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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He fought dirty during the separation/divorce in order to win the best possible settlement/position for himself possible.

Now that everything has been settled during the divorce and he is no longer fighting to protect his own self interests, he feels no need to be contentious with you.  And he is not going to put his energy into fighting you.  The divorce terms are laid out, child custody has been determined and that's good enough.

He's being "friendly" because you share a child together. If it wasn't for your son, he probably would just go his separate way and be done with you and that phase of his life.  And that's pretty much it in a nutshell. He basically DGAF, which you already knew.[/quote]

Not OP- but what a charitable interpretation, except he didn't see his own kid for eleven months, tried to get money, moved in with his mistress, attempted leave OP and their child without a home, etc.

OP- my dad was like this and I swear he's probably got some borderline personality disorder. He used to do things because he's oppositional and attention-seeking. He has no conscience and sees people he was supposed to care about as impediments, competition, or people he can just discard-- including his kids. Charming at first (everyone likes dad until they get to know him) and hated (detested) by most people who truly know him.

I would ignore your ex, and be cautious about your DC spending a lot of time with him- you can't control that, or the relationship, but watch for the poison/toxic nature. I could see your ex deliberately undermining your parenting at every turn because he wants to "bug you" and doesn't give a sh*t about your child's best interests. Seriously. [/quote]

Yes.  You have put into blunt terms what I suspect the Op's ex is all about.  He is all about his own self interests and winning - doesn't matter who he hurts as long as he comes out on top..  Agree that Op should watch her child.  Try to stay as calm as possible when dealing with the ex, don't let him get under your skin.  He isn't a "friend".[/quote]

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