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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you have no way of knowing that your are infertile because your husband dragged his feet. You might have had issues if you started earlier too. [b]You shouldn’t deny him having biological children because you can’t.[/b] (If you want donor embryos for other reasons that is a different story)[/quote]

So, now considering adoption is “denying” him children? This is very misogynistic. I love how everyone insists it’s not his fault for making her wait until she could no longer have biological children. Now, simply considering adopt is “denying” him something. Pick a side, at least be consistent. [/quote]

I was in the same situation, so I do understand.  BUT THERE IS A CHILD INVOLVED.  Imagine explaining to the child that you were pissed at your husband for making you wait, so you forced him to agree to use an donor embryo so you'd be "even" so now your child will wonder about BOTH their bio mother and bio father.  Doesn't bode well for a healthy relationship once your kid understands things.  Yes, OP should be pissed, but it's no excuse for using the child as the chip to get even.  Adoption is great, and certainly a possible answer to OP's situation.  It would be wonderful to give a living child a loving family AND have OP feel good about the relative relationships that she and her husband have with the child.  But don't pretend that embryo adoption is the same as adopting a living child (unless you truly believe that the embryo is no different than a newborn - and I think very few people around here do - you'd have to be hard core anti-abortion even in cases of rape and incest).

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