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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And then we have the lovely threads where people look back on their friends' parents ... If it weren't for mrs smith, giving me a place to go and food after school and driving me, Who knows? It pays for itself a thousandfold. [/quote]

Very grateful for the gently used school uniforms. We did not have laundry facilities or money for the laundromat. Clothes were washed in the bathtub and hung over the shower rod. Having more than one set felt downright luxurious![/quote]

I was also one of those kids.  I'm in a really good place now and my kids know my story.  They also know how much shame I felt for my circumstances and how hard I worked to keep it secret from everyone. The parents of several of my friends and some of my teachers knew about it but they never, ever did anything to make me think they did.  That's the only thing that gives me pause about the girl's story.  I would have died before admitting I hadn't eaten.  I would have finagled a meal somehow but I would never tell anyone why I hadn't eaten.  I also wouldn't have specified anything (like a pepperoni pizza) because that's too telling.  I would have made sure it was the other person's perferred food.  I'm not saying you shouldn't feed her or send her home with leftovers but I wouldn't accept her story at face value.  My upbringing has also given me heightened awareness when someone isn't what they seem to be.  [/quote]

I think your situation is different from the dd's because you were hungry a lot of the time, and her situation sounds like it is temporary and she isn't used to food insecurity.  Kids today also are growing up in a slightly different culture than we did.  I did not grow up poor or food insecure, but I never would have asked for the kind of pizza I liked as a kid. I think it is the way we grew up, OP.  I wanted to not be noticed and was incredibly insecure, but I was not hungry.  When my kids have friends over, their friends are very clear about telling me what kind of pizza they like. I would never have done that as a kid. [/quote]

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