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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]From your post she sounds like a nice person, and I can't help but think your brother cheated on her, hence his stand on this and the fact that he is already  married with kids, I am assuming though. If that is the case, I'd let brother know you already have plans to see her, I wouldn't cancel the plans. [/quote]

I'm trying to re-read OP's post and I don't see any cause for the marriage breakup. For all we know SHE cheated on HIM or told him she was trying to get pregnant but didn't go off of BC.

A few points.
1. Does the ex-SIL have primary custody of the elementary schooler? If primary custody lies with your brother/his wife, that'd be a reason not to get chummy with your ex-SIL. 
2. How close are your kids to this elementary schooler? If your kids and this elementary schooler are close, that's a reason to be chummy with your ex-SIL. 
3. Your brother is your immediate family. Barring something like "he has child porn on his laptop" he'll be the one you deal with going forward for the next 40 years, NOT your ex-SIL. 
4. If you know that your ex-SIL did something to blow up the marriage, that'd be a reason to only maintain a "won't act like Bele and Lokai from Star Trek" when you see her. (Ditto, if your brother really blew up the marriage but wasn't such a jerk as to warrant no or reduced contact, you might give a little more sympathy to the ex-SIL). 
5. If your ex-SIL is a flight away, that's a reason NOT to maintain a friendship with her - if she were local, then it'd be easier to maintain a friendship and get something out of it other than your brother and his new wife's emnity. 
6. If your ex-SIL tries to dig for dirt or spends an hour complaining about your brother, cut it loose. 
7. I wouldn't put it on social media for sure. [/quote]

Literally none of that matters when the child is involved who still needs aunts and grandparents around.  The adults need to grow the F up.[/quote]

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