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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry OP.  I second the others who suggest taking a mental health day (or 2) to get some rest.

As part of those days off, make a list of everything that you feel responsible for.  Then put an asterisk next to something you can outsource.  And then ask your husband to help get that set up.

Just cleaning and yard work would take a huge load off.

Personally, the food prep / meal planning is exhausting to me.  My husband suggested a few months ago that I write out week by week meal plans and that helped me SO much.  I basically planned out 6 weeks of meals, with 5 meals / week, and a list of things I make less frequently to "sub in".  I plan for 1 "easy" night a week like fast food, frozen etc.

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If my husband had suggested that I plan meals out for 6 weeks, I would have happily handed him a pad of paper. lol[/quote]

I am prepped for 6 weeks. It took me about 15 minutes to choose the three meals that Blue Apron is going to send me. The other two days in the weeks are kids choice so Mac and Cheese, Brats, Hamburgers, fish sticks, whatever and left overs for Mom. Or even CHick Fil A. Weekends my Husband cooks or we grill something.

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You missed her point.  Why couldn't your husband plan the meals?[/quote]

Her husband could plan the meals. My husband doesn't plan dinner because he handles breakfast, making lunches and drop off. I have pick up, snack, and dinner. It is a division of labor. We both handle ignoring folding clothes and putting stuff away until the cleaning people come. It works for us.[/quote]

I wrote the comment and I wasn't trying to harp on you. I am simply amused that you gave credit to your husband for an idea that only redistributes your labor. It's like when my MIL watches me vacuum and points out the spots I've missed. Such "helpful" suggestions honestly make me laugh.

But I'm glad your Blue Apron orders and frozen meal planning is no longer exhausting. 
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If someone is burn out and overwhelmed by many things you look for a way to decrease the time you have to do certain things. Meal planning may be easy for some people but for others it is a grind and for others it is stressful. I happen to suck at meal planning. I end up in ruts and I end up falling back on things that are less healthy because I don't plan in advance. My solution, to provide more diverse meals that are more interesting then what I come up with, is to use Blue Apron. It cuts down on my need to shop and meal plan and we eat better as a family.

The idea is to offer solutions that help the OP get things back in control for herself and get some time back. Blue Apron, Home Chef, Hello Fresh, Sun Basket all take some of the pressure off someone.

My Husband and I are not redistributing labor, we have established a pattern that works well for us and leaves us both with similar responsibilities. It sounds like the OP needs to figure out her system. [/quote]

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