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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you were overly harsh with consequences and she is about the point where she has zero to lose.  Unless she has a diagnosis? Does she have a diagnosis?  [/quote]

I have a kid who is much harder than anything you’ve described. One thing that stuck out in your post is that your daughter has nothing to lose. You have consequences her to death and she can never get out of the rabbit hole so why bother to try. Now she’s just been set up to fail. I believe you have good intentions. But you should probably take a step back and figure out how to clean the scale for her.

One place I’d start is to figure out why she’s doing things like taking a kindle to school and why you thought it was such a good idea to make that your hill to die on. [/quote]

I agree with this.  The lunch thing particularly jumped out at me.  Does she get any say in what you’re packing her for lunch?  If she gets to choose her lunches and then doesn’t eat them, that’s one thing.  But if you’re packing things she truly dislikes or that she doesn’t feel comfortable eating at school (e.g., you pack tuna salad sandwiches and people tease her for having fish breath afterward), then you’re basically demanding that shemgo hungry so you can maintain control over what gets packed for lunch.

Honestly, my hunch is that there are a lot of control battles going on between you and your daughter, and that not all of them necessarily need to be fought.  If that’s the case, figuring out some places you can relax the iron fist and let her have some control over her own life might make things much better.[/quote]

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