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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]6 weeks is ridiculous OP.  You should have planned better. Now, either your baby is in a bad situation.  I suggest you get a nanny so at least your kid won’t be subjected to daycare this young (and I’m a daycare mom). [/quote]

And that should say - either your baby or your boss is in a bad situation [/quote]

Your privilege is showing.  [b]Many of us go back to work after 6 weeks.  [/b]My mom and MIL each spent a week with the baby, then baby started daycare at 9 weeks.  Ideal?  No.  Is he fine?  Absolutely.  Healthy and happy and thriving 6 yo now.

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This is harsh but you shouldn’t have a child if you have to return to work at six weeks.  We don’t have paid leave in this country because women continue to have children under abysmal conditions.  [/quote]

No, we don't have paid leave in this country because the vast majority of the decision makers are men, many of whom have wives who stay home.  They are out of touch and don't care.  I will agree that the maternity/parental leave policies in this country are abysmal for most people.

I also went back at 6 weeks.  I thought I could handle it.  I was wrong.  6 weeks was all the paid leave (and even at that, it was only at 60% pay) that I received.  My company's leave accrual policies at that time were such that I could not have more than an additional 40 hours built up (I elected to save that time, knowing I would need it for pediatrician's visits and days off of daycare), and we aren't offered sick leave.  I could have gone unpaid FMLA until 12 weeks, but I elected not to do so and, by the time I realized what a burden returning to work so early would be on me, it was too late to change my mind.  Trust that if I ever have the opportunity to have another child, I'll make a different decision.

Baby was fine.  She didn't start daycare until 12 weeks (my MIL and my mother took turns watching her for us from 6-12 weeks).  I, on the other hand, was a complete disaster.  How I held it together enough to function at work amazes me, but LOTS of women return to work at 6 weeks, or even earlier.  LOTS.

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