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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Adoption is not trauma.

Trauma (e.g., death of, or neglect or abuse by, a parent) usually precedes adoption.

Adoption--when it works well--is the child getting a second chance to grow into adulthood within a loving family headed up by healthy parents.

I am not saying it is not traumatic for a developing human to have to start over with a new family, but the adoptive family did not cause the trauma. They are part of the solution.[/quote]

No.  Most families who adopt infants create the trauma by creating the insanely profitable market for infant adoptions.  You are deluding yourself by thinking that there are orphanages filled with healthy infants waiting for second chances because they have parents who don’t want to parent them.  That’s not how it works in domestic infant adoption.

Adoption counselors coerce vulnerable women into believing that they best way they can love their babies is to give them to a wealthier family to raise.  They teach young mothers that wanting to parent when you are poor or sick or lack a lot of family support is sefish.  The industry CREATES trauma, trauma that can last generations.[/quote]

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