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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]WOW. Op and the rest of you are clueless and unsympathetic when it comes to elder care! Op - she is 88!! She probably needs the help and attention. She liked the other place. Move her back there. You are saying she has enough to last five years? That takes her to 93. She will probably die sooner if you leave her where she is. [/quote]
I just said that her mother lived to be 97. What will we do when she is 93 and runs out of money? Just dump her onto Medicaid? Or would you propose I spend down the money I have saved for my old age, and then I go onto Medicaid?

As far as being unsympathetic, you sure are nervy. Both my sister and I have turned our lives upside down during this past year, and now we are alternating 3-day weekends, with phone calls 3x a day, took her ALL OVER to find the new apartment she would like, buy her everything she needs when she calls and then deliver it, order meals for her because she won't go to the dining room, while handling ALL the bills and mail and logistics that still remain after my father's death.

And the "other place" she liked is for disabled individuals. In fact, I don't even know that they would accept her. She was only there because my father needed assisted living. [/quote]

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