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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why do you think she isn’t showing signs of dementia?? She doesn’t know how to dial a phone and can’t figure out her shower and isn’t taking out her trash. She is 88. You guys are heartless. Why do you think your dad was worth the money but tour mom isn’t?[/quote]
OP here, and do you really think we didn't have her tested years ago for her inability to figure out the remote control? We had her tested, and she was on the HIGH side of normal. Her most recent test was last month, before we moved her into the new apartment, and it was still high normal. We have been told that she has no indication of dementia. We even had a brain scan and THAT showed up as normal.

And it isn't that my dad was worth the money and my mom not. My dad TRULY was incapacitated. He was a prisoner in his own body, and it was heart-breaking. My mother is physically able, and it is ridiculous to put an able woman in an assisted living community because she says she can't work the TV remote. [/quote]

Your mom probably spent most of her days holed up in her room at the assisted living place with your dad.  She is now in a place that will allow her some social interaction with people going through the same life stage that she is.  You might be surprised at how she will blossom when she starts to make some friends.

Hang in there, Op.  This is an adjustment for her kids, too.  Don't feel like you need to rush over there to "fix" things for you mom. You moved her there for good reasons and sometimes it just takes a little time for them to adjust.[/quote]

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