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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No advice, but you literally just described my daughter who turned 4 in July. There is such much screaming and crying in our house right now and she doesn't listen at all about anything. I'm at a breaking point with her. 
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Thank you. I know this is all NORMAL. But[b] I’d like to have a peaceful house again[/b].[/quote]

When did this behavior start? How long has it been going on?

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A year. 3 was hard, but we heard it was hard. Everyone told us he'd improve around 4. I know school is causing stress. But I know it us (DH and I). We aren't consistent enough. It's obviously our parenting is all wrong, if he's fine at school. [/quote]

This is absolutely NOT your parenting. Home is a safe place where he knows he'll be loved even if he's misbehaving and not holding it together like he has to do all day. He's not being bad or testing boundaries. It is emotional exhaustion, like a sensory sensitive child that gets overwhelmed and melts down from over stimulation. Give yourself and him some grace.

[i]It’s important to note that these outbursts are not tantrums where your child is testing boundaries or trying to get their way. The after-school restraint collapse is exactly that—a collapse, or meltdown, because your child is so emotionally overwhelmed that they can no longer keep it together.
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https://www.pbs.org/parents/thrive/how-to-cope-with-after-school-meltdowns
https://www.parents.com/kids/discipline/strategies/your-childs-behavior-at-home-vs-school/
https://www.todaysparent.com/kids/school-age/after-school-restraint-collapse-is-a-real-thing-heres-how-to-deal-with-it/
https://www.mother.ly/child/if-your-child-falls-apart-after-school-theres-a-good-reason-why[/quote]

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