Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No advice, but you literally just described my daughter who turned 4 in July. There is such much screaming and crying in our house right now and she doesn't listen at all about anything. I'm at a breaking point with her.
Thank you. I know this is all NORMAL. But I’d like to have a peaceful house again.
When did this behavior start? How long has it been going on?
A year. 3 was hard, but we heard it was hard. Everyone told us he'd improve around 4. I know school is causing stress. But I know it us (DH and I). We aren't consistent enough. It's obviously our parenting is all wrong, if he's fine at school.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My son is exactly like this. He’s now 9, but we still have a lot of he same issues at home. I have learned that it’s not my parenting, but my kid. My daughter is not like this at all. She’s responsible and she listens. My son was born difficult. Some kids are easy and some are hard. You work with what you get. My son has sensory processing disorder. Probably a lot of his behaviors are related.
Thank you. Yes, my second son is only 2.5 but he's very empathetic, easy going. It's difficult to not compare.
Any advice? He does not have SPD.
We have used lots of different techniques over the years. Time outs, go to room, sticker charts in the toddler years, timers, and now we are using our own money system (fake money). We reward with dollars and also take away dollars. Nothing has stuck over the years but we certainly do try. He’s also a quirky kid with some repeltitice behaviors. He is also a highly anxious child.
We alternate between patience and loving but we also get frustrated and have yelled. He’s smart as a whip, though. No issues in school (knock on wood). A bit siorgnaized with materials, but very hard worker.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My son is exactly like this. He’s now 9, but we still have a lot of he same issues at home. I have learned that it’s not my parenting, but my kid. My daughter is not like this at all. She’s responsible and she listens. My son was born difficult. Some kids are easy and some are hard. You work with what you get. My son has sensory processing disorder. Probably a lot of his behaviors are related.
Thank you. Yes, my second son is only 2.5 but he's very empathetic, easy going. It's difficult to not compare.
Any advice? He does not have SPD.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You need a clear consequence for outright ignoring/disobedience. Enforce it every single time.
If you tell him to leave the light switch and he turns it on/off he gets a 4 min timeout.
When you are both calm explain this to him. Give examples of behaviors that will get the time out.
If you tell him to play while you make dinner you can say " You need to be out of the kitchen. You can play in the family room or your bedroom. If you don't pick one of those I will pick for you" No negotiating.
A list of offenses is a good idea.
Have either of you ever met a 4 year old? The list of offenses is endless because their imagination and creativity for how to ignore or disobeying knows no bounds.
Anonymous wrote:My son is exactly like this. He’s now 9, but we still have a lot of he same issues at home. I have learned that it’s not my parenting, but my kid. My daughter is not like this at all. She’s responsible and she listens. My son was born difficult. Some kids are easy and some are hard. You work with what you get. My son has sensory processing disorder. Probably a lot of his behaviors are related.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No advice, but you literally just described my daughter who turned 4 in July. There is such much screaming and crying in our house right now and she doesn't listen at all about anything. I'm at a breaking point with her.
Thank you. I know this is all NORMAL. But I’d like to have a peaceful house again.
When did this behavior start? How long has it been going on?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You need a clear consequence for outright ignoring/disobedience. Enforce it every single time.
If you tell him to leave the light switch and he turns it on/off he gets a 4 min timeout.
When you are both calm explain this to him. Give examples of behaviors that will get the time out.
If you tell him to play while you make dinner you can say " You need to be out of the kitchen. You can play in the family room or your bedroom. If you don't pick one of those I will pick for you" No negotiating.
A list of offenses is a good idea.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No advice, but you literally just described my daughter who turned 4 in July. There is such much screaming and crying in our house right now and she doesn't listen at all about anything. I'm at a breaking point with her.
Thank you. I know this is all NORMAL. But I’d like to have a peaceful house again.
Anonymous wrote:You need a clear consequence for outright ignoring/disobedience. Enforce it every single time.
If you tell him to leave the light switch and he turns it on/off he gets a 4 min timeout.
When you are both calm explain this to him. Give examples of behaviors that will get the time out.
If you tell him to play while you make dinner you can say " You need to be out of the kitchen. You can play in the family room or your bedroom. If you don't pick one of those I will pick for you" No negotiating.
Anonymous wrote:You need a clear consequence for outright ignoring/disobedience. Enforce it every single time.
If you tell him to leave the light switch and he turns it on/off he gets a 4 min timeout.
When you are both calm explain this to him. Give examples of behaviors that will get the time out.
If you tell him to play while you make dinner you can say " You need to be out of the kitchen. You can play in the family room or your bedroom. If you don't pick one of those I will pick for you" No negotiating.
Anonymous wrote:He wants attention and he's figured out how to get lots of negative attention. Make him a deal: "go play in your room for 30 minutes and then you and I will have 15 minutes of uninterrupted play time." Then follow through and focus on him and only him for 15 minutes.