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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It does sound like anxiety and also that emotional needs aren't being met -- doesn't mean you're a bad parent, just that DD needs something different. I do suggest therapy and also some books on "peaceful parenting.". Try Dr Laura Markham.

Also, you seem kind of hands off. My DD is 6 and I sit with her while she brushes teeth. Does she have the motor skills to do it herself, sure, but she won't do it / do a good job. I wonder if you are more in the mode of parenting an older child and forgetting that young kids need supervision to actually get something done.[/quote]

+1 to the peaceful parenting. Op you are clearly a really caring mom, I think learning some different approaches besides just behavioral things like rewards/consequences could go a long way here. That approach is not working for your child and is inadvertently leading them to feel pretty crappy about themselves. I think with some different tools you could connect with her much better. And that’s also a big thing, try to think about focusing on connection - kids learn when they are connected. Here are some potential places to start:

I’ve heard great things about PEP classes: http://pepparent.org/
Read How to talk so kids will listen - will also provide you with some great alternatives to start. There is also how to talk so “little” kids will listen which is ages 2-7 I think but I know many who just read the regular one - that is the classic I think.

These were all really helpful for me in learning other approaches to just consequence/reward and helped bring a lot of peace to our house (and helped me understand my kid)
And then seconding Peaceful parent, happy kid by Laura markham. [/quote]

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