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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Asking if he's happy is pointless.  You need to start from a place where you know and acknowledge he's not happy, something like:

"I know you are not happy in this marriage, and I want to do everything in my power to change that.  I am committed to making this work and here is what I am thinking ..."

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Why? He's not even committed enough to making this work to tell her what he's feeling, so jumping to the part where she's telling him she's going to try to make him happy no matter what it takes is premature. For all you know, the answer is going to be "I'm unhappy because you're not 25 anymore, but maybe if you get your breasts done, I'll be happy again." You shouldn't commit to solving the problem, or even sticking around, before you know what it is.

And, btw, what about her happiness? Having a husband who has talked about leaving would make me pretty unhappy. She could tell him she's not happy with this marriage and offer to go to couple's counseling with him. That way, she's offering to engage in a process with him, not committing to solving something she likely can't solve. [/quote]

Because it sounds like she wants it to work.  Sometimes you need to let go of your pride in relationships and put it out there.  I learned that the hard way.[/quote]

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