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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think that a matriarch mindset exists whether or not it is articulated as such.

I believe that most conflicts between MILs and DILs are actually battles for matriarchal control of the family culture and values.  [/quote]

Culture and values? Such as what? [/quote]

Family culture:  Parenting practices, breastfeeding, childcare, egalitarian parenting or traditional gender roles, parenting girls vs. boys and how that is done, views re: screen time, how to spend holidays (formal, informal, when to open gifts, what kind of gifts are given), food, music, religion.  The list goes on.

Values:  Private school, public school, religious education and practice, various areas of ethics, political views.[/quote]

Why would a MIL feel she had any say in any of this? Literally none of this is anyone's business but mom and dad. Breastfeeding; are you kidding? [/quote]

My MIL feels like she should have a say because everyone had a say in how [i]she[/i] raised her kids and it is her turn to boss some people around, gosh darn it. And, hey, her daughter really doesn't actually have any interest in raising her kid and let's MIL make all sorts of decisions, so why wouldn't MIL get it have input on every little decision when it comes to my kid?

Needless to say, we have a very strained, difficult relationship. DH set very firm boundaries, too.[/quote]

Wow! This is exactly the situation with my MIL and my SIL.  My MIL even told my DH that it was her turn to be in charge.  Sadly, this has put quite a strain on both my relationship with her and  also with her son. Even our adult kids think she’s crazy and controlling.  She thinks a girl should be raised to honor her man and get married well and we have three well educated independent girls.  You can imagine how well that goes over with his family.  [/quote]

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