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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Thanks, all, for your replies. I just turned 39, my youngest is 3.5.
Why I might not : financial paranoia, as well as a sense that I would like to have an era in my (hopefully) healthy middle aged years where I actually have my sh*t together, don’t have decaying apple sauce in the minivan, learn to cook a few new dishes, wear scarves, etc. And my husband had a bad health scare recently that made me so grateful for our three and the life we had/ sort of have again now that it’s resolved. Plus, our swiftly advancing ages making me nervous about problems with the baby and rocking the boat in general.

Why I might do it anyway: kids are the main thing that I’m sure that I’m glad that I did, and would always do again, and when I’m 80 I think I’ll want 4. I’ve in fact always wanted 4 and if I don’t I’ll always be sad about it.[/quote]

Maybe ask , why you want 4?  An image of the big, chaotic fun family?
Not to be snarkly, but I come from a family of 4 and find it overrated. My hubs just has a bro, and family (quality) time is so much easier and I'm actually closer to them.

Also ask yourself if you're already overwhelmed, then adding to the mix benefits noone.[/quote]

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