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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hitting/biting?

Yelling?

Refusing to share?

Getting out of bed at bedtime?

Not brushing teeth/completing other task/chore?

We do take away TV time as the major consequence for our kids (3 & 4). The other thread about taking away electronics says this isn't a logical consequence to the behavior but we've struggled to think of what those would be for this age group. What do others do? [/quote]

Is it possible that you have some underlying behavior issues going on here?

For the 3 year old, I would focus on teaching and modeling. Have them replay the situation and practice acceptable behavior. Be calm, do not yell — just say, we don’t yell. You can say it like this, could you please try? It’s ok to punch a pillow/draw an angry drawing but not to hit. Focus on redirection and teaching acceptable ways to express their feelings and needs.

The 4 year old should be getting challenging jobs/chores to learn practical life skills and channel that desire for power in a constructive way. Routines should be rock solid. Use incentives the child really wants to help extinguish behavior like getting out of bed. The only real consequence is they get led back to bed quietly with no interaction.

If this is driven by sibling conflict, it sounds like they could use more one on one time with parents, less electronics overall, and again, practice/replay situations. At this age your kids still (relatively) want to please you so you have a good window of influence.[/quote]

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