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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hitting/biting?  - if I see a kid is going through a hitting phase, I am on top of them and will catch their hand to prevent the hit.  I catch, squeeze a little to get their attention and say "People are not for hitting." If they are in a biting phase, I try to lower their frustration so they won't bite. And I remove them from the room when they do.

Yelling?   Reverse psychology if needed, but yelling isn't that big a deal unless in a restaurant or something. I guess I'd take them out and say "It's not acceptable to yell inside. We'll stand here until you're ready to speak at a lower volume."

Refusing to share?  Eh. I don't believe everyone has to share everything.

Getting out of bed at bedtime?  Basically, the super nanny way. I don't like a lot of her tactics, but this one I'm okay with as long as their true needs are met.

Not brushing teeth/completing other task/chore?  I follow them around and make them do it. No doing anything fun until it's done. [/quote]

Pretty close to what we do. Not punishing does not mean not having or enforcing boundaries. For tooth brushing or getting out of bed we’d try to figure out the “why” underneath and address that. If it’s boring, then make tooth brushing fun, let the kid do it first, have a race, whatever. I know people think these things “take too much time” but they generally solve the problem more quickly (that is, take collectively less time) in the long run vs putting a kid in time out or whatever. OP, if it feels like maybe punishments and rewards are just POSSIBLY not the only way to raise a decent human being, check out Janet Lansbury for younger kids and Allie Kohn for older.[/quote]

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