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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband is traveling and I have a toddler and an almost toddler. They both go to day care but mornings and evenings are brutal. This weekend has been awful- my three year old has had several tantrums a day, and just been a freaking nightmare. The almost toddler is an easy kid so no complaints there.

Today, I got a sitter for a few hours and the three year old flipped out- yelling, screaming and crying. Later during bath time, there was another massive- and I mean massive- tantrum. I tried soothing and ignoring but she just worked herself into raging hysterics. After half an hour, I gave her a tight slap and she stopped screaming and started sobbing quietly and settled.

I’m so ashamed that I slapped my kid. I’m also wondering if my kid needs help- no speech delays, otherwise articulate and good learner. [/quote]

You child doesn’t need help, OP, you do (that sounds glib and I apologize but it is true). You could have left the room when she started her tantrum and ignored her.  You need to learn how to ride out tantrums and stop taking them personally.  You need help getting your expectations in line with her age.

You were wrong to strike a little kid for basically being a little kid.  You need some parenting guidance.  [/quote]

[b]Actually, a 30-minute long tantrum is not necessarily within the realm of standard kid behavior. Not that it indicates delay - just a kid who's a little extra. While I don't believe in hitting, I also don't believe in denying the extreme stress that a tantrum like that can cause (especially with another baby in the house and husband away.)  If the child is consistently tantruming like that, I'd absolutely get some support from a reputable therapist.[/b]  [/quote]

This.

And the OP doesn't need parenting guidance in the way some think.  She knows it wasn't ideal to slap her three year old.  She needs support, not shaming.  OP, if the long tantrum was a one-off, work on finding ways to keep your cool and to prevent tantrums in the future.  If longer tantrums are a regular thing, I'd talk to your pediatrician.

Hang in there.  A single slap isn't ideal, but it also doesn't make you a lousy parent.  You're human.  We all have moments we aren't where we want to be.[/quote]

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