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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think probably 90% of people get why people cheat. It’s tempting. Marriage is long and can be boring and tedious. It’s living day in and day out with someone and their most annoying qualities and habits and least attractive moments. People want to cheat because another person is new and exciting and it feels nice to be “discovered” again by someone who knows nothing about you. I absolutely 100% get why people cheat and why it’s tempting.

The thing is, you have to have the wisdom to know what a shallow and fleeting satisfaction it will bring. It’s so much energy expended on something that isn’t real. It brings trouble and problems. And eventually, ANYONE you get to know too well or are too familiar with can get “old” and then you’re no better off.

Cheating is easy and it’s tempting but most of us need to believe there’s things worth having fidelity to, that we can be better than our worst, most base impulses. [/quote]

I don't disagree with what you wrote, but I think OP's scenario is significantly different from the typical story about someone who developed a crush on a coworker without really meaning to after 10 years of marriage and raising kids.

OP has a baby under 1 years old, and specifically went out to a bar to flirt up to the line, even considering leaving his wedding ring at home, in reaction to a fight with his wife.  *seeking out* other women as a reaction to marital stress is not an understandable or normal thing.  it's pretty pathological.  [/quote]

Yeah that’s true. [/quote]

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