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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m OP. H is very impulsive. As [b]he heard me reprimand DC for disrespecting me[/b], H came to yell 3 insults (not the F, but other ones) to DC minutes encore heading to school. On the way to school DC cried and told me he is deeply hurt and that these insults will remain forever in his mind. [/quote]

Well, as others I have some skepticism that we are getting the whole story here, but I'll just point out the bolded text above.
Your DH heard that you were reprimanding your DC because your DC apparently HAD done something wrong by disrespecting you.
DH's reaction may have been over the top, but it sounds like he was trying to back you up.
Again, it's not uncommon for there to be moments when one parent reaction with stronger discipline than the other, and there has to be a moment of re-calibration and re-alignment.

From what you describe, it sounds like all three of you are prone to BIG emotional responses.
DH might have blown up and said something unkind
DC says the insults will remain "forever in his mind"
You are threatening no Father's Day and other punishments
I suggest you all could benefit from learning how to work regulating your emotional responses, both in the moment, and finding ways when you still accidentally blow up, to find a calm time later to go back and apologize.
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A strong discipline doesn’t mean you got to insult a child. Any of us can firmly enforce rules without insulting. DC is 8z
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