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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m OP. H is very impulsive. As he heard me reprimand DC for disrespecting me, H came to yell 3 insults (not the F, but other ones) to DC minutes encore heading to school. On the way to school DC cried and told me he is deeply hurt and that these insults will remain forever in his mind. [/quote]

This isn't real. [/quote]

It’s 100% real.[/quote]

I doubt it.

-np[/quote]

It’s a sad reality. 100%[/quote]

So give us more details.  How old is DC?  If your DC is mature enough to tell you that the insults will remain forever in his mind, I suggest you encourage him to share his feelings with his father, either face to face, or (if he is afraid his father will not listen/talk over him) in written form.  Your role, I guess, would be as a facilitator to help their relationship.  You are the parent, and DH is the parent.  Share your own feelings with DH from a parent perspective.  Is this how you collectively want to parent your child?  Explore that part of it--you're disappointed that DH is parenting this way, and it's not the way you want your child to be parented.  Of course, DH may feel the same way--he disagrees with the way you're parenting his son.  You have to work that part out together, as adults.

Avoid making this about you and DC against DH.  There are no "sides."  You are a family and you need to all work together to have positive relationships.

As for Father's Day... whatever.  If DC is upset and doesn't want to make a "Best Dad eVER!!!" macaroni picture, fine, he doesn't have to.  But ignoring the holiday because of an ugly incident right before is ridiculous.  DH is not a child that you can punish.  Whatever you do to commemorate Mother's Day, you should do something similar on Father's Day.  You have more than a week to work through this.  [/quote]

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