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I'd be even more concerned about my spouse calling me "antisocial" than about the prospect of what sounds like a bad vacation and a waste of a week off.

Does he often call you names, OP? It's pretty jerkish of him to leap to antisocial. How well do you already know this family? Will their older kids mesh at all with your own to play, or will the other parents be huffy and offended if you happen to tell one of their kids to stop poking your own in the ribs or to let another kid play with a toy they're hogging? He seems unaware that these things will happen over a whole week together with other people's kids.

Have you told him clearly the kinds of things we're saying here about the level of child-watching involved in having SIX young kids in tow 24/7 and how that is not relaxing or fun? Has there been an actual calm conversation where you laid out your objections and he listened, or did you just say it doesn't appeal to you and he called you antisocial and that's all that's been said?

Why is he so set on bonding with this one couple in particular?Does he share some activity with the other dad, and the destination would have that activity (as in, both of them golf or kayak or whatever, and the destination has a lot of that, so he sees "bonding with Bob" when you see "Stuck with the kids with Cathy.")

Can't you couples-bond back home on some weekends, with outings where both couples get babysitters and you can all be adults together? I'm betting maybe the other family can't get a sitter who will handle four at once, or they are a "we never get a sitter, we won't leave the kids like that" couple.

Whatever the situation, you and he need to communicate. If you can't, just imagine the joys of being on vacation with another couple when you and your husband can't communicate well.

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