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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yet another reason to be happily single with custody. No need for another person to take care of. [/quote]

Same here. I just teach my kid how to clean so win win. [/quote]
As long as you all are making your boys do the cleaning, your daughters-in-law shouldn’t have this problem. Correct?[/quote]
Anyone?[/quote]

No.  Men love to accept unpaid labor from women and will often stop cleaning if they think they can get their wife to do so.  You pretty much have to put your foot down and lay down the law with even the most well trained man.  [/quote]

This is a harmful stereotype. I don't know what your expeirence is and why you would write that.  This is same dynamic presents itself in regularly in same sex couples.

FWIW, I don't think making boys do the cleaning will resolve the issue.  At the end of the day, the issue is rarely competance in doing a particular task.  It is almost always a motivational issue.  Has the person internalized the importance of a tidy space?  If they haven't, then all the chore wheels, punishments, nagging, bribery, etc. won't make much of a difference.  And no, a wife should not have to handle all of the chores in a house, but that doesn't mean that everyone else must live up to her expectations.  Conflicts about how to run the house ought to be resolved in the same manner as anything else.  You aren't required to marry a slob (or anyone).  But if you did, then you need to accept your choice.  A marriage isn't a house to be flipped.

Regarding the study, I think people are implying a causative effect that may not be supported by the statement.  One example, that some PPs have noted, is that single parents don't have time of everything.  The single mothers I know are work extremely hard to provide a great life for their kids, but they aren't focused on dusting or redecorating the entire house every few months for a new season or holiday.  The other factor is that people that can manage these kinds of things are less likely to get divorced.  It's hard to share your life with someone, but it is harder when your life is out of control.  [/quote]

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