Anonymous wrote:"our research showed that when there’s a man in the house, mothers spend more time cooking, cleaning, shopping and doing laundry than their single-mom counterparts."
Ok, well this is actually more about the reality of being a single mom. You have less time for this stuff, so you do less of it. You do take out more, you do PeaPod, you do the laundry on the quick cycle and only when absolutely necessary and push that load size to the breaking point; and you are rarely home, so what is there to clean anyway, and hopefully you are splurging on an cleaning lady because no one can do "it all" by themselves. Cooking, cleaning your own home, sorting laundry and doing reasonalbe sized loads, spending hours in Whole Foods shopping, sampling, maybe visiting the coffee bar there ... these are luxuries of people who have time, and if you have an able and willing partner, you have time.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DH is a total slob. Definitely less work when he's on travel. No question.
Part of my morning routine is to throw out the trash and recycling that DH left around the kitchen, finish loading the dishes he left on the counter into the dishwasher, and scrub the dried cereal he ate as a snack out of the sink where he poured the leftovers.
He also does more in the realm of childcare and cooking than most men do, but what does it take to learn to clean up after yourself???
If a guy had pulled that kind of crap while we were dating, no chance would I marry him, and ZERO chance would I procreate with him.
lol truthAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:All people generate housework. It stands to reason that in a house with an extra adult, there would be more housework to do. Some people are are a net gain for the household in terms of work. Others are a net loss.
Okay.. soo.. if there is an extra adult in the house, assuming they also have opposable thumbs, why is there MORE work?
Someone generating more work should also be helping with that more work.
Depends on the man. My XH grew up with a SAHM and a cleaning lady. He expected a BJ if he took the recycling out along with the trash .
Anonymous wrote:All people generate housework. It stands to reason that in a house with an extra adult, there would be more housework to do. Some people are are a net gain for the household in terms of work. Others are a net loss.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yet another reason to be happily single with custody. No need for another person to take care of.
Same here. I just teach my kid how to clean so win win.
As long as you all are making your boys do the cleaning, your daughters-in-law shouldn’t have this problem. Correct?
Anyone?
No. Men love to accept unpaid labor from women and will often stop cleaning if they think they can get their wife to do so. You pretty much have to put your foot down and lay down the law with even the most well trained man.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yet another reason to be happily single with custody. No need for another person to take care of.
Same here. I just teach my kid how to clean so win win.
As long as you all are making your boys do the cleaning, your daughters-in-law shouldn’t have this problem. Correct?
Anyone?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yet another reason to be happily single with custody. No need for another person to take care of.
Same here. I just teach my kid how to clean so win win.
As long as you all are making your boys do the cleaning, your daughters-in-law shouldn’t have this problem. Correct?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DH is a total slob. Definitely less work when he's on travel. No question.
Part of my morning routine is to throw out the trash and recycling that DH left around the kitchen, finish loading the dishes he left on the counter into the dishwasher, and scrub the dried cereal he ate as a snack out of the sink where he poured the leftovers.
He also does more in the realm of childcare and cooking than most men do, but what does it take to learn to clean up after yourself???
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DH is a total slob. Definitely less work when he's on travel. No question.
Part of my morning routine is to throw out the trash and recycling that DH left around the kitchen, finish loading the dishes he left on the counter into the dishwasher, and scrub the dried cereal he ate as a snack out of the sink where he poured the leftovers.
He also does more in the realm of childcare and cooking than most men do, but what does it take to learn to clean up after yourself???
Anonymous wrote:DH is a total slob. Definitely less work when he's on travel. No question.
Anonymous wrote:Frankly, I think some of this stuff is more fun when there is another adult there who cares and appreciates it. I certainly spend more time cooking when my DH is home for dinner than I do when it’s just the kids and I. This leads to more dishes. I also exercise more and sign the kids up for more activities because I have another set of hands, and high leads to more laundry.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:All people generate housework. It stands to reason that in a house with an extra adult, there would be more housework to do. Some people are are a net gain for the household in terms of work. Others are a net loss.
Okay.. soo.. if there is an extra adult in the house, assuming they also have opposable thumbs, why is there MORE work?
Someone generating more work should also be helping with that more work.
OMG. You’re insufferable. Tit for tat? Huh?
Please grow up.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yet another reason to be happily single with custody. No need for another person to take care of.
You're happy not to see your child every day, and not to have your child with you every Christmas and every birthday, just to avoid a few extra loads of laundry?
Let me clarify for you - I said with custody - I have full physical and legal custody. It’s the father I’m happy to be rid of.