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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I posted our family's story, which is more complicated but shares some features, earlier this year.  We moved DD mid-September (2 weeks into the year), losing the tuition but gaining back our 7th grader.

With two weeks to go before our public school year's end, it was 4,000% worth it.

I say this as a long-term educator, product myself of a highly-regarded all-girls' school. Our daughter had been in private schools throughout her (young) life, including a feeder to a big 3 in DC, from which we moved prior to her 3rd grade.  DH and I never imagined that she'd be anywhere but a great independent school with the very best facilities, etc., etc.,.  In hindsight, that was EXACTLY our problem:  we didn't 'imagine' anything other than our own 'dreams' of the 'very best education money could buy,' rather than 'imagining' the 'very best educational environment for the daughter we had.'

It is VERY difficult for me to write the above statement, especially as someone who spent years not only as an educator but also as one who advocated for equality education for those who are underserved by our current system.  I'm admitting, in other words, my own HUGE blindspots, my privilege, my bias, my -isms, my everything that almost trapped me into failing my daughter.  Thank heavens things changed.

If people need to flame me here, go ahead, but I hope you don't, mainly because other moms and dads reading this may be in similar situations where they're just recognizing that there's a crisis they need to remediate and they need to see opportunities of support as much as possible. In our case, what's done is done and what's now in front of us is a MUCH healthier kid that we recognize again as our daughter -- whew -- and some hard work ahead of us for ourselves.

A long time ago, a friend shared her most frazzled post-partum moment in which she screamed at her husband, who was making what she considered an horrific parenting blunder "THERE ARE NO DO-OVERS!" We all laughed about it at the time, but it continues to strike me as the best parenting advice ever. There are no do-overs, no second chances.

In the case of your daughter, as in the case of my own similar situation, I'd heed it and make the switch.

Good luck to you both.

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