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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m an aunt and I have my own kids. This is a strange post. Just because you want to see your nieces and nephews and grandchildren doesn’t make you entitled. It’s pretty generous. And if you’re the kid whose grandparents, aunts and uncles spend time with you and take you places, you’re pretty lucky.

Also, if those relationships are cultivated and something happens to you, your kids then have other trusted adults in their lives to help them and support them.

No child can ever have too many people that love them. [/quote]

I don’t think it’s normal family visits that OP is talking about. Probably more like my mom who would demand we drive 500 miles and bring the kids to visit the day after Christmas as a compromise when we said we weren’t traveling on Christmas. (Yes, we could’ve said no and started WWIII, but we were young and trying to keep the peace and grandma is just trying to show her love). Or how she would freak out if any of the other grandparents wanted to visit on the kids’ birthdays because it should all be about her. Or how she would want to face time when it was convenient for her and would expect us to wake the kids so they could see her (we didn’t but it didn’t stop her from expecting it). Or how if they traveled to us, they would wake the kids even if they arrived at midnight and the kids were 4-6 years old (again, preventing that was like trying to prevent a tornado). Healthy boundaries were met with much wailing and gnashing of teeth.

Asking for a visit? Awesome. Taking the kids to the zoo? You’re the best. Carrying on like I owe you time with my children on your schedule regardless of what’s best and healthiest for my family? Not cool.

My mom said more than once to me, “you came out of my body so you belong to me. They came from your body, so essentially they’re mine too. Accept that.”[/quote]

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